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Mother's Day is the 1st weekend in May...

ShadowCatTx's picture

Submitted by ShadowCatTx on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 5:35pm

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I am filling out our visitation calendar for this year...

I create a calendar to avoid the panic and stress of scheduling visitation, it also lets me plan our "blended life".

We are standard visitation in Texas, EOW. The first weekend in May also happens to be Mother's Day (Sunday). Our CO says plain Father/Mother's day was to be with the respective parent...

Does that mean we loose the entire weekend? How does this work? I know holiday time normally trumps regular standard time, but how does this ONE day work? I find much confusion trying to plan who goes where each week and every holiday!!! HELP ME!

I know some pro stepmom out there knows how it is done!

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Submitted by Icansorelate on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 5:43pm

It means she gets them on Sunday. Unless your CO is very specific, the exact times are unclear, but plan on she gets then starting that morning and possibly including sun overnight to monday.

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Submitted by LAMomma on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 6:02pm

Yup. It just means she gets them on Sunday morning to Sunday night at some point. Ours is from like 9am - 6pm, if you have Sunday overnights then the kids would be returned at 6pm (or whatever time).. If not then they'll remain with her.

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Submitted by notasm3 on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 7:41pm

Make sure you have the right date (May 8th) - it's the 2nd Sunday in May. Which is the first whole weekend. But not the first Sunday.

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Submitted by LikeMinded on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 8:21pm

I used to see this as "loosing an entire weekend"... now I see it as gaining a free weekend of babysitting.

My my what 5 years can do.

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Submitted by HappilySelfish679 on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 9:11pm

Oh how I would love to " lose a whole weekend " with skids , I would love to lose over and over and over again Smile !!

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Submitted by LikeMinded on Thu, 01/28/2016 - 9:38pm

exactly Blum 3

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 01/29/2016 - 12:06pm

dh's is specific, states from 6p sat to 6p sunday with the respective parent, regardless of who's weekend it actually is.

so if his just says mother's day w/ the mother, i would think just the day, or maybe if he's feeling generous, a full 24-hr period.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Fri, 01/29/2016 - 12:14pm

Initially, our JOD said that it was Mother's Day and Father's Day with each parent. If it was his weekend and Mother's Day, the kids came home Sunday morning. If it was my weekend, obviously no issue. Same with Father's Day.

A few years later, when he was looking for ways to reduce his support (lol) he asked if we could change it to the whole weekend, regardless of whose weekend it was (more overnights - ha!). I agreed.

A few years after that, we switched to one week on, one week off, and we went back to the original version - just the day...

DH and Medusa's JOD said 9:00am-6:00pm on Mother's Day and Father's Day. Of course, now it says nothing about it, because she has no custody anymore. Yaaay me - said no SM ever.