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stepdadinhell's picture

Help, I don't know what to do and don't think I can take this any longer.

I married my wife 3 years ago, prior to that time we were dating for a couple of years. I am 30, my wife is 36 and she has a daughter that is no 18 1/2.

Her daughter is driving me and my wife crazy, but my wife refuses to put her foot down.

My step daughter has caused the police to be at my house 3 times in the past 3 years. twice from throwing temper tantrums and literally destroying our house to the point we had to call the cops and once due to her stealing.

Her mother allowed her to finish high school a semester early, with a C- gpa, on the condition that she works and goes to cc classes. Well that was a year ago, in that time she has barely worked and dropped out of the 2 classes she signed up for.

In that same course of time she has thrown numerous tantrums, attempted to destroy our house, attempted to destroy my marraige, literally destroyed the vehicle we gave her to drive, been on drugs and alcohol. Been kicked out twice by her mother to only be back a few days or a week later by playing a guilt trip on my wife and promising to change. Of course she never changes and only gets worse.

We have told her she should stay with her dad but she refuses to talk to him.

It gets worse every day, her behavior gets worse every day. She does not follow any rules, she is completely disrespectful to my wife, my self, our home, our rules.

I am tired of having this person live off of us, destroy our lives, and cannot continue to sit passively by and let her destroy my life and leach off of us.

What do I do???? How do I get through this?

I am to the point that if my wife and I did not have a 3 month old baby I would get a divorce to escape this evil 18 1/2 year old shitty person.

PolyMom's picture

Tough love. There's no reason an 18 year old needs to live with you. If she can't abide your rules, she can find her own place and make her own rules. If your wife can't handle that, then she can go room with her daughter.