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Submitted by anothermom on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 6:43pm

My bio kids and I celebrated Thanksgiving with their aunt yesterday. It was a long day and we ate at 3. So, at 9 p.m. we were getting hungry we ordered a pizza, it was dark and wet, I didn't have my glasses on, and I went into a ditch.
I wasn't far from home so, I walked to my house. I called a tow truck and "SO". He told me to cancel the tow he could do it for free.
He did not get here till 30 minutes later. The tow company still charge me $55. He got here and I called the cops unfortunately, the cop and the tow that I had canceled were already there.
The cop accused me of being drunk and I had to pass a sobriety test of course, I did but still a bit embarrassing and I still can't get over it.After, I got home from walking out of the ditch I did have A drink.Maybe, the cop thought I was IDK, I have awful anxiety and this has made me feel crazy!!!!
I even called my children's grandmother ( I still consider her my MIL) and let her know what was going on because they have a scanner and can be nosey (I.E I got pulled over for not stopping.Next day,it was in the newspaper; I got a call.)Plus, I was scared to death! I have never been in the back of a cop car before. I called my Dad and BKs too.
I got to ride home in the cop car. My BK's were laughing at me for crying. They thought it was sort of funny that the cop thought I was drunk. They told me everything was okay.I was safe and they loved me so much. That made me feel so much better. Then, in a few minutes I felt "bad" again. My depression is really getting me down.
I'm not an expert, but I think my car is totalled. I'm carless! Insurance adjuster will be here in 24-48 hours.
I just got my car fixed not to long ago, I was in another ditch for "avoiding" a deer. I feel like turning over my license.
I need to get out of this woe is me feeling!
All day I have been dependent on "SO". I can't stand it! He told me, he doesn't want to move out like we talked about. He and his S19 have nowhere to go and I have no vehicle right now. I'm up the creek with out a paddle!!!!
Any self motivation ttt and advice more than welcomed!!!

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Submitted by notasm3 on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 6:51pm

You can go buy a beater car at a tote the note car lot in a worst case scenario.

And in the future you can 1)wear your glasses 2)avoid driving at night or on wet roads when possible 3)Take a driving course if you think that would help.

No you do not need the leach and his son.

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Submitted by anothermom on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 7:18pm

Thank! I already went to the dealership to see what's available just in case it can't be fixed. I really don't want to spend $ on a rental. I pray this goes fast.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 6:57pm

I'm sorry, but the only thing I can take from your post is that seem to enjoy being a bit of a drama queen that feeds on hysteria.

You called the COPS because you had a minor single vehicle off the road accident? WHY???? It's not an emergency if no one was hurt and no property was damaged. Why call everyone and their brother, and then cry because they all come? OF COURSE they all came, YOU CALLED THEM!!! What did you think would happen?

Not trying to scold you, but it sort of sounds like you made an "oopsie" situation into a huge deal of your own accord.

And of course a cop will suspect some crying mess of a hysterical woman of drinking if she's a sobbing mess because she ran her car off the road and then called everyone to come witness her spectacle. That's precisely what a drunk would do! A sober, mature person would check out the damage, call a tow (company or friend) if the vehicle can't be driven, get their car home, call the insurance company, and call it a night.

I'm sorry- pet peeve- but I can't handle women who act all helpless and hysterical with minor situations. And yes, in the scheme of things, this is a minor situation.

Maybe I was in the fire department too long, but I have no sympathy for the maiden in distress act.

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Submitted by anothermom on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 7:15pm

When I first called the tow company, they told me I had to call the cop shop. They also, notify them for insurance purposes.
I didn't cry or act irrational in front of the cop.
She (the cop) asked why I left the "scene". That's when the "were you drinking" questions came up.
I was being stupid and cheap by calling "SO" to pull me out. I should not of done that!It was a total dumb ass moment!
I should not of cancelled the tow. I should have walked back down there and waited.
I feel like a damn fool! Its always worse when you make your own situation worse ...which is what I did

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Submitted by Indigo on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 8:26pm

Goodness. Where do you live? I have called many tow companies through the years and NEVER ONCE had a tow company refuse to attend unless I call the police. I've lived in major cities and one-horse towns so small they don't have any fast food restaurants and this has never happened. NO freakin' tow company pays staff to call the insurance company of every pickup that they make. This situation just doesn't sound right.

No cellphone?

It sounds more likely that you had a few glasses of wine, forgot to put your glasses on and you drove home. You wrecked, freaked out, walked home, drank another glass and called everyone and their dog to tell your version of events.

Stop digging that hole deeper. Own it and move forward.

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Submitted by thisisnotmocking on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 7:31pm

It's pretty unlikely that just going in the ditch is going to total your car.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 11/28/2015 - 8:20pm

I think I must have missed something. Did you have a cellphone on you? You called your kids (and everybody else and their brother) while your back at your crashed car, why then, if you had a phone, did yoyo walk back to your house to call a tow truck, the police and your SO?

Also, if you were calling the police to the scene, why in the world would you drink while home? Surely you had to have known standing in front of a police officer at the crash site with alcohol on your breath was asking for potential trouble? Are you also taking any medication for the anxiety and depression? And drank (even one drink) on top of meds?

Final confusion, "All day I have been dependent on "SO". I can't stand it! He told me, he doesn't want to move out like we talked about. He and his S19 have nowhere to go and I have no vehicle right now. I'm up the creek with out a paddle!!!!"

Why were you so dependent on SO all day today?

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Sun, 11/29/2015 - 12:45am

I took it to mean that there was no deer. That was the excuse for the accident.

It is SOP for someone who has been drinking and gets in an accident to go home and have a drink before calling the police. It is difficult to prove whether the alcohol in the system was consumed before or after the accident.

OP - it is very easy to attempt to self medicate depression with alcohol. Can you stop drinking and try and deal with your depression another way? Do you have meds? If so, maybe it is time to see your doctor for an adjustment.

Please try and take a step back and see if you can calm some of the drama in your life. And by all means start dealing with your depression - that will make all the difference.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Sun, 11/29/2015 - 12:15pm

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had alarm bells go off with this post.

I was pretty sure I was going to check back in and find myself raked over hot coals for having been "so mean" to the poor wittle pwincess who wrecked her car and got all hysterical and cried a river and called everyone blubbering over her much-ado-about-nothing accident.

Small amount of faith restored in the world. Thanks, Step Talkers!