Need Advise About Adult Step-Daughter calling the shots for the holidays
My SD is married and lives in another town and for the past few years she has called the shots on when our family has gotten together for the holidays. This has really become a problem with my two daughters because since they were born we always had a set day and time. Since my SD and I don't get along together and she really doesn't care about being around my daughters and my grand-children I think she should respect our wishes and let us keep our tradition. I have explained this to my husband and its like he has his head stuck in the sand. I asked him if he would please call her and ask her if her and hers would please try to make arrangements to come when we were going to have our holiday. As of this date he has knot called, texted, or anything to ask her about this. Should I take the bull by the horns and do it myself? Then if SD and hers show up fine and if they don't oh well; at least I tried.
DH, I am planning holiday dec
DH, I am planning holiday dec ?. I suggest u call your daughter and let her know. If she shows up before or after she can have left overs of whatever we had for dinner that night with no pressies. But our celebration is on dec? Not so hard you see?
My SD is also a control freak
My SD is also a control freak around the holidays. Up until a few years ago my DH and I always caved to what she wanted to do. Then I had enough of that since I was never going to spend Christmas with my family if I allowed that to continue. DH and I now tell SD when we are available. If she wants to plan Christmas around our schedule, that's fine. If she wants to have her Christmas celebration without us, that is also fine. The specific day is not important to me or DH, but spending time with our families is.
You control your own time. I don't know why we give other people so much power over our own calendars, and then we resent it. Take a deep breath and take control of your life back. If SD throws a fit, that's HER fit to own, not yours.
SD should not be able to call
SD should not be able to call the shots every year. Have one Holiday at your house, the next at hers. And DH should be the one to inform her of the change in 'tradition'.
Nope, you should not call. In
Nope, you should not call. In fact, don't even discuss it further with your DH. Make your own family arrangements and inform DH of when your own family celebrations will be. Fuck SD. She is toxic, controlling, manipulative and that means she is likely evil and should be destroyed. (Figuratively of course) If DH wants to inform his toxic spawn of when the holidays will be celebrated in your family then he can but .... no more catering to the toxic SD. Ever. PERIOD!!!
Enjoy your holidays and have fun barring SD's toxic ass! }:)