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Should I put an end to this or let it go?

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Overall I have a good relationship with my SDs (4 and Dirol though the 8 year old is easier to deal with as the 4 year old is somewhat spoiled/possessive over her daddy. We get them every weekend Friday after school until Monday morning dropping them off at school. My question is, sometimes SD4 will crawl between FDH and I when we're sitting on the couch watching tv or whatever and will sometimes even say "Daddy I want to sit by you!" and he'll sometimes move away from me to cuddle with her. It irks me but I don't know if it should. Should I ignore this or say something? I know he only has a few days with them and I see him every day so I don't know if I should even bring it up that it bothers me. We've already had issues the last few weeks with SD4 not wanting to eat dinner, or only eat part of the dinner I make and FDH was letting her get away with it and making her something else to eat. I shut that down last weekend and told him if he didn't make her eat what the other kids (SD8 and my bio kids) have to eat then he should do all the cooking while they're here...so now he either cooks or makes her eat whatever we make. Problem solved! I just don't want it to seem like I'm always complaining about her. I love her and she's a sweet girl but she's definitely the "baby" of the house and she knows it. Blum 3

mnmat86's picture

Thanks for the advice. The feeding thing is no longer an issue (for me haha). FDH is all worried about her not eating but I see it as a simple power play by a young child. If you make a big fuss over it and give into her she thinks "hmmm this gets me attention/and whatever food I want!" Doy! Thankfully the couch thing doesn't happen too often, just rubs me the wrong way when it does!