Uneasy feelings
it. I know I probably should not have done it, but I see by phone records that dh texted his daughter and now they are calling. Isn't that nice? The same one that has caused a shitload of trouble and pain. Well I have to say I am not surprised. But I have drawn my own personal line in the sand....no contact with her or her pack.
What really got under my skin was dh's comment last night, and he has mentioned it before. He basically said that if he and I are no more, he would expect to take my dog with him! And then he said he would take all go them! Yes, he has been in this Dog's life for most of it, but I owned him when I first met dh.
This statement usually comes out when he is cuddling with the dog. And it is almost like a joke, but given the troubles in our marriage, I am really angry this morning. How dare he? And would he go to court for this dog? I am left wondering. His own daughters take him to court and he chases after them.
My kids would be devastated.
And I feel the walls coming up again.
Yes I am the buyer, but it
Yes I am the buyer, but it really is a helluva comment.....gets me upset, but I did not show him any reaction.
guys can be such idiots over
guys can be such idiots over dogs. XH#2 claimed my dog as his own. Y'know for the one he never had growing up. My poor pup died from pancreatic cancer and 21 years later he is still moping over her picture, clip of her fur tucked in the frame. seriously.
Of course your dog is yours, he is just being emotionally 8 years old, pouting *mine*mine*mine*
gah.
Maybe say, "Please don't
Maybe say, "Please don't threaten me with divorce and the loss of my dog. It's not a joke to me and makes me angry."
What a jerk.
LOL! Love that!!
LOL! Love that!!
Isn't it crazy how angry it
Isn't it crazy how angry it can make us when they contact their bratty kids?
I know to any of my non-SM friends, they would think "what an evil betch. she doesn't want her husband to talk to his kids?!"
For a while, I used to troll DH's phone records to see if he called/texted his oldest after she would treat me like crap. She would do something horrible to us and then he'd text like "I miss you... maybe we could have dinner". I would want to punch him in the face!!
Now, he's realized how horribly nasty she is and he doesn't reward it anymore. I think she was actually shocked when she treated me badly and he basically told her he was done putting up with her shit.
My dh works harder the worse
My dh works harder the worse they treat him..he is an enabler....he did the same with his ex...i think he gets an ego stroking by feeling he can save or change them..it makes me sick actually! but i know i can only control me. he can engage with the devils. all hw wants...but i do not have to...they crossed my decency line and there is no going back..they are truly rotten people and he just takes it...
I should say i looked at
I should say i looked at their texts once and it hurt way too much for me to peek again..last night i used his phone with his directive and i easily could have peeked....but no.
they are a part of him....but they do not have to be a part of me....
You have it right there!
You have it right there! They are his problem. You don't need to have anything to do with them. That is what the disengaging is....not buying into such nonsense, not looking at his phone record to see if they have alled, etc. Not bothering about them and NOT CARING what they do.
My DH is the king of the
My DH is the king of the enablers. I just don't enable him to do much enabling.
I think the comment bothered you because of the issues in your marriage.
My DH adores my dog and I do believe that my dog would choose him over me even though I've had him since he was a puppy. We can joke around about it's being his dog now because our marriage is not rocky.
You are right oldone!! and i
You are right oldone!! and i do think that having my own house now should help me feel more in control now that his daughter is back. I told him that i am spending easter at my home with my kids...he is coming on sat nite...i think he is not coming after work on fri as usual because he is angry that i no longer want to spend weekends at the home he shared with ex and daughters in their hometown.. i will go maybe once a month....but honestly i feel such angst there...
Yeah I just got there after
:sick: Yeah I just got there after 20 years of trying to be nice. Understanding, overlooking bad behavior and oh God the fighting! So SS and SDIL finally showed their ass for the last time wiyh me. And my husband dosent say anything to them even though they keep his bio grandchild from him, never saying sorry. Always disrespecting DH and my BS and BD. so instead of one narcissit SS torturing all of us. And hubby not deling with him. Now there are 2 of them and I simply refuse!!!!!!! REFUSE to deal them treating us all horribly anymore. DONE!!!!!!
And I will not look, ask or mention them ever again ! Disengage is an understatement after dealing with BM all those years her spawn is not my problem now that he is 29 and SDIL is 30. Not doing it for 20 years more, and I know this sounds mean but those grand babies are not mine. I have 4 grandsons, BD s kids. And my BS and a loving SIL and DIL. Soooooo if they want to be in our lives they will treat us with respect or they can go the hell on.
Oh side note and scary SS is a youth pastor at a large church huh? Telling other people how to follow Christ example and how to love their families!,,,, what??????
I have stopped looking at the
I have stopped looking at the phone records, all it does is make me angry. My DH is now communicating with brat SD after she called and told him off. Little princess got angry when she called daddy to bash me and he stuck up for me. That was 4 months ago and it's been so peaceful without her around. Of course DH couldn't take it anymore and sent the princess brat a letter to make up with her, even though she attacked us while he just listened. She talked to him the other night and I could hear him kissing her ass on the phone; it was infuriating. He is sending the message to the royal brat that it's ok to disrespect us and daddy will always be waiting with arms wide open. I had to leave the room and blast the TV so I didn't have to be subjected to this nonsense. My dad would never tolerate it if I acted this way. My DH is the king enabler; princess can do no wrong. I told him that I want nothing to do with her because I have done nothing but be nice to the b*tch and she continues to be abusive towards us. It's fine if he wants to kiss up to her but I no longer want anything to do with it. She is an ungrateful, self centered, abusive, mean, backstabbing brat and I want nothing to do with her anymore. All she does is make me sick :sick:
Well he made her that way.
Well he made her that way. Whatever pay off he wants he must get. Sorry and I hope you are ok.
I am in a similar situation and the person who I have to blame is DH. If he wanted a responsible independent daughter, her could have parented her for that outcome. This is his fault. He wanted 50% custody so he really should have turned up as a smart and humble parent seeking assistance and advice. She is the outcome of his poor parenting choices.
Very well said; I completely
Very well said; I completely agree. My DH and his ex wife created the princess brat. They raised her by giving her whatever she wanted as they cleaned up all the messes she ever made. I have never seen her take responsibility for her poor behavior and bad choices. Her parents are constantly making excuses for her and her nonsense. She gets worse the older she gets. She is a huge burden on the family and DH knows it, even though he won't admit it. I don't mean to sound callous but she is his problem, not mine.
Calluses are what we get when
Calluses are what we get when we've been rubbed the wrong way too many times.