quick intro
Dw and I have been married for 7 yrs ,she was a widow with a 5 yr old when we met,when we married sd was 7 , dw daughter never knew her bd as he passed away before her birth.
we were abroad at the time and moved to my home country for work etc.
we have now been married 7 yrs and now have a bd between us aswell as the sd. I try and sincerly do try to treat them as equal .
But the sd is a real pain in the butt, when i correct her im glared at,im ignored most of the time unless she wants some thing,she is bone idle will think nothing of staying in bed till late afternoon.but does well at school,she tries to undermime me as much as poss,i can look her straight in the eye and say morning and be totally ignored to the point that she is looking straight through me,she is sly underhanded i suspect a few things have gone missing and she knows where and why, the trouble is our bd is only 3 nearly 4 and to be honest is going through the attention drama queen stage but,she doesnt normally cry with out reason but of late she has been crying more regularly.
now ive started to wonder and think ive caught a flashing glimpse cant be 100% certain that sd is pinching ,pushing to the point of bullying the bd,now it would be all to easy to steam in but as a kid myself my parents split up and my mother had a new husband sd to me ,who made me and my brothers lives in semi fear and with good reason as years later when she left him we found out he had been beating my mother, but thats another story,nedless to say I dont want my sd to live in fear like i did.
anyhow today we arrive home to find sd sprawled out over the sofa the house a tip pots n pans piled up in the sink, totally ignored our requests to get of her back side and tidy her mess up,the bd comes through crying saying sd isnot being nice to her while sd just turns up the tv.
dw has a go at her and she lays the law down,but still sd just lays there i walk in silent treatment,i say hi ignored ig to her face to face say hi still ignored. im not pleased,but i know that losing my rag is not the answer, so i go for a drive cool of.
arrive home,sd is looking out the bedroom window, i walk in sd has run down stairs and is sprawled out on sofa again with tv on mtv i think. once again not even a hi,DW cooks dinner ,my dad pops round not a word,DW tells her to do the dishes, she does then bounces to her room with not a word.
Ireally dont know what to do for the best,DW has a temper and i know she has let rip in the past,I dont see that as the answer but im coming to my witts end as this isnt just the odd occasion but nearly a daily thing.the is a lot lot more i could tell you all as this was just todays joys.Ive told the DW I praying the next 4 yrs away then she the sd can sod of with my blessing if things dont improve,this went down like a lead ballon and it had caused heated debates between me and the DW.
Help please