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lovin-life's picture

This is how frustrating x's are...

AS you know daughter is grounded...but she wants to go out for halloween.

(By the way nothing happened to her at Dad's over the weekend..she was on msn..she made a web page professing her love for the BF she's not allowed to have..all on Dad's computer over the weekend.....)

I decided she can go out but NOT with friends she can go with brother and DAD. SO I call Dad yesterday to confirm plans...First thing he says is "LET HER GO WITH HER FRIENDS" ... I say no she's grounded! he says..."It's a holiday, like Christmas, you can't take that away from her" ...ahhhhhh yes I can! Because...
1) Halloween is not Christmas..that's absurd
2) People who are grounded do not hang out with their freinds
3) She can still get her treats
4) what's the point of being grounded if you still get to do all the fun stuff

Then he asks..."when is halloween?" ..duhhhh OCt 31st.same as everyyear!
Then says..."I'm out of town that week"

Well why did you discuss taking the kids out for halloween with son....if you weren't even going to be in town....shouldn't you check that first!!!!

No problem.....hubby will take them out..

Last week X sends me an e-mail...stating that he will contribute his share of daughters tournament fees ONLY if he is the one to take her (it is out of province)....if not HE WON'T PAY ANYTHING! It's my weekend!!! She'll go with me...blah blah...this & that...

SO I say no problem...you take her...

Well during this same phone call yesterday he says....After all the huffing & puffing he did..he says can she go with a parent on the team? I'll just give them the money for the hotel & meals..etc...it's too much money for 4 people to go.

WELCOME TO MY WORLD BUDDY!!!!!!!!

Only, he stiffed me with ALL of the expenses!!!! Equipment, Registration fees, tournement fees, gas for travel, meals, hotel costs after conning me into signing her up by saying he'd pay half after I told him I didn't have the money!

So Basically...He's not going. and He will only pay for her expenses (some)..if I don't go!!!

And he expects ME to make all of his arrangements with a team parent to take her.....

Two can play games!!

I am not going to go Wink wink* and she can travel down with another on Friday..

tournement fees paid by then....
cash in hand for meals for the weekend...
hhhhhhmmmmm
I wonder how *bored" I'll be sitting home with the car fully gassed up in the driveway...and me home alone for the weekend (hubby working..son at Dads)..might have to go for a littel drive *somewhere*....

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lovin-life's picture

I'm glad I didn't make those arrangements for her to go with a team parent.....because as of yesterday...he has changed his mind AGAIN and now he's going.....

Very frustrating person to deal with..... Smile

happy's picture

My ex is a pain in my butt too..
He lives an hour and 1/2 away from me and our kids.. So he is the every other weekend dad.. Does not take care of them when they are sick, does not help them with reading or anything.. He works all the time and they just have to deal with that. My daughter at 10 already never wants to go there. And the only reason she is so agreeable now is the fact that her dad's GF's daughter goes.. He never pays support on time and is never caught up. Its been like that for 7 years and again I just take it.. Well not anymore.. I am putting my foot down.. I see the prosecting attorney on Wed. next week and I am garnishing his milk checks in order to stop having to communicate with him on that very topic.. Calling and asking. He always has an excuse.. Well now lets see how you will make all those new tractor pmts, or pay for you GF child support and it will be nice to depend on it and know its there for when my kids need something. He will be angry but O'well not my problem... My kids are first over him and stupidity..
So I hear you.. Sorry I went off.. Bad day, week just horrible..

lovin-life's picture

Go off all you like. I'm having a stressful week also...

Court crap with X, behaviour of 13 yr old, financial stuff, making costumes for halloween (son won creepiest costume prize last night), mother is MIA...locked in her room....she is going through amajor bout of depression and I'm miles away, and I'm trying to get another job...... Smile

happy's picture

You and I need to flya nd meet and go party for the weekend.. Been thru all that in the past month also.. Well at least very similiar..

My husband right now is pretty much leaving me feeling pretty empty. And I am just suppose to smile and say ok. But in all actuality I guess we are suppose to follow everything they say because after all in the "marriage vows" where it says obey, oops I left that out.. Sorry another vent.. He is acting like all this stuff we are going thru with his son I am just suppose to bend over and take it in the ass.. OOH i am very upset still can you tell..