Help! I have been living with my husband for 6 years now. We have accepted the fact that we both have children from previous relationships. It has been an on going battle with me and the bio-logical mother and I. But since two weeks ago it has gone over the top. Prior to meeting my now husband he took his baby’s mother to court for custody because she would leave her 4 year old daughter alone in the household and she would call her dad tell her she was scared on a number of occasions. What drew the line was when she left her daughter at his mother’s house and said she will be back and two months passed by and she never showed up. He didn’t even have an address where she lived. This caused him to file for custody. The Judge was hesitant, but the mother decided to give him primary custody. As per the court order he has her 10 months of the year and the mother has her 2 months of the year. We waited 5 years to get married and make sure that our kids had a healthy relationship with each other. When I my husband and I moved in with each other I have had MAJOR arguments with him. I expressed to him that I have strong maternal instincts and that when her mother decides to be around for her daughter I can’t just step aside. At one point I didn’t want her mom to pick up her child at all. I know why I was being so harsh, well at the time her mother informed my husband that she was an escort. At one point her mother used to leave her with boyfriend/pimp while she was working on the weekends or during the summer. After much convincing my husband that it was not healthy, he finally started putting restrictions to her visitations. During this time her mother used to tell her that she was coming to pick her up for the weekend and then never show up until two months later. I saw this little girl grow up with hurt waiting around for her mom heartbroken. I used to argue with my husband stating that if she does that to her daughter don’t let her pick her up the next time or if she told you that she might pick her up thats fine so we can be prepared but don’t tell his daughter that way she won’t be disappointed. Through the years her mother would buy her clothing I didn’t not approve of. I don’t believe a 10 year old girl has any business wear daisy duke shorts, especially when her body is well endowed in both areas. All this time I thought my relationship with my step daughter was improving. My husband even asked his daughter for permission to marry me. My son was the bestman and my stepdaughter was the maid of honor. Everything was going fine. Until, she found out what her mother used to do up to a year ago. At one point my step daughter started to make poor choices in friends, dropped all her grades, and did things behind my back. Her mom, her dad and I actually made a united front and disciplined her, we were getting along fine. My stepdaughter and her mother had a lot of issues to work out and I encouraged this to the fullest. My stepdaughter even went as far as saying to her mom that I understand her more that her own mother. I sent them off for the summer and when my stepdaughter came back it was a NIGHTMARE!!! She came back stating that I was the cause that she is completely miserable and that she pretend to like me most of the time to get me off her back. Her mother and her even had a discussion that my stepdaughter wants to move in with her mother and that its going to happen. Her mom wanted to speak only to my husband and that I have no say on what goes on this little girls life. My stepdaughter moved in when she was 6 years old and now she’s 13 years old. I was too busy listening and trying to be there for her when she had problems with her mom, dad, and friends that I was blind sided. My step daughter wants me out of her business with clothes, school and more. I feel rejected and hurt from my step daughter and her mom. I never once to keep them apart. Yes I have made restrictions but all were always temporary. Was I wrong? Should my husband and I let her go? Was I that blind that she states she always pretends to like me? I thought we actually had a mother daughter relationship. I was the one she told everything too, or so I thought or is it that she feels she must be loyal to her mom. Please advise