What a mess
My SO and I have been together for 10 years he has a daughter that just turned 16 a month ago. There's never been a visitation agreement and her mom is a big manipulator which had lead to an on and off relationship for most of her life. She decided that she no longer wanted a relationship with him about 2 years ago and her mom backed her on the decision.
She contacted him in November saying that her mom was crazy and she wanted to run away and live with us because her mom yells at her all the time and had hit her in one of their altercations and that she's been really depressed. Her mom said no to the move but we've been seeing her about one weekend a month since. Then at the start of summer things got worse and her mom told her she couldn't deal with her anymore and that she needed to spend the summer with us so she could get a break. Everything was going well and she kept on asking if she could live with us. Then when cleaning out her room her mom found condoms and alcohol so we started keeping a better eye on her even though she said it was old and she didn't do that stuff anymore. Last week we found weed in her backpack. Her dad talked to her about it for a few minutes saying that he doesn't understand how she could be so stupid but it was late at night so he said they'd discuss it in the morning. The next day everything was ok between them and she went to spend a few days with Mom. We look through her phone and find out she's extremely promiscuous, smoking and drinking regularly and has talked to her friends about suicide several times over the past 6 months. Her mom works nights so she has no idea that all this was going on.
On the way back to our place she told her mom that she took 9 Prozac the night her dad called her stupid trying to commit suicide. Now her mom has her in the hospital for intensive therapy for the week and his daughter doesn't want to see him. Her mom and the therapist are saying that my SO is emotionally abusive and are recommending that he doesn't visit and feel like it's his fault. We're both in shock! Need advice on how you would handle this.