What is disengaging?
I have been reading about the notion of 'disengaging'. I was wondering what that would look like with a SS(13) that we have 50/50 custody over and a husband who wants the Brady Bunch kind of life? My SS is not a bad kid- but our personalities just don't click. My DH and I have a daughter together, DD(18Mo). The only time DH and I ever argue is about his son. I'm not someone who can be half involved- I'm either all in or all out. I've been 'all in' with SS but the problem with that I feel like I parent SS more than his bio parents do (I'm not trying to be his play mate and have no problem holding him accountable for his actions). DH and I are in a really bad place. He says its 'death by a thousand cuts' in terms of the things I say about SS. I shine light on things that DH has been fine keeping in the shadows- and that has been THE major issue in our relationship. I'm thinking disengaging might be the way to go... thoughts?