trail of pain
My SD just turned 16. After living with us for 6 years w/o seeing BM, she chose to move. She had a rough year prior to this (entered high school, lost & changed many friends, first love who cheated on her, slipping grades, moodiness, lying, unhappiness with our rules and expectations). After moving she started telling (everyone but us) how she has an eating disorder, was sneaking around, doing drugs, drinking, having sex, etc. Now she and BM have labeled her with so many disorders I can't even begin list them all. With all the attention she is now getting from BM her stories have taken on a life of their own. Plus she is getting rewarded with everything she could possibly ever want - BM is trying to make up for years of absence.
Through it all I am sad and I miss her. I miss the girl she was before she became a teenager. It is so hard to try to parent someone else's child, and when they turn on you it cuts really deep. I keep hoping that this new chapter of her life will be a fresh start and get her to a happier place, but it would have been great if she could have done it without leaving such a trail of pain (and blame) on her way out.