stepson who i am growing to dislike
I know to some it may come across as mean or heartless or cruel but here goes.......I have a 15 yr old ss who i am beginning to dislike immensely! We moved into my inlaws place and have taken over due to them getting on in age, ever since then we have had issues come up with the 15 yr old. he has become argumentative, mouthy, lazy, lying, expecting you to pay or give him something in return for him to do chores,doesnt want to take responsibility for anything he does wrong. blames everyone else for everything, example: doesnt do his homework, the teacher lost it or didnt mark it down in her grade book, gets detention for fighting...the other kid lied and started the fight just to get him into trouble etc etc. he even went to school and told them how we make him work all the time and never give him time to do his homework. that we give him to many chores...he had the school believing it to the point they actually had the state involved! his own mother is a whack job, she takes him only when she feels like it and has called the cops on him and had him arrested before. he has been in counseling in the past. the counselor even said that he needs to learn to accept responsibility for his actions and to have daily chores to help him learn that. i have bent over backwards for that kid and all he does is treat me like dirt. i refuse to spend alot of money on clothes and shoes just because of a name that is on them so they are not good enough. i have gone to all the school meetings when neither mom or dad went, helped with homework, stayed home with him when he was sick, bought him what he needed. i just feel like i am taken for granted all the way around, not just by the 15 yr old but by both parents too. i am at the point where i know i wont do for my ss anymore like i was. i have a seizure disorder where stress isnt good for me either.it doesnt help when dad doesnt support me in alot either...he sees how he is with me but still acts like i am the bad guy in this. i have two kids of my own, one is 18 and in college and the other is 16 and lives with me. the 16 yr is my daughter and my ss goes out of the way to pick a fight with her daily or insult her constantly. when my ss goes to his mothers hubby is in a good mood and there is no tension and no fighting or arguing going on in the house. things get done, and its how it should be, but the minute that kid walks back in everything goes in the shitter. i guess i am just venting, no other place to really do it where anyone else would understand how i feel or what i am dealing with.