SD16 treats DD9 like crap and is jealous-DD9 wants her acceptance
Where do I start?
Sd16 is jealous bc "dad has a new family"...I get it.
She treats my bio like shes a walking disease, won't let her touch her tells her shes gross. She's mean to her, makes rude/mean comments when fdh and I are out of earshot. We have addressed it in DD9's therapy and my own therapist on ways to deal with it etc.
When SD16 niece and nephew are around they are gross trailer trash kids- not being mean but think sick kids ALL the time snotty crusty noses filthy hands etc and SD16 picks them up, kisses their snotty face right on the mouth and loves them up. Leaves DD9 out of everything and does this right in front of DD9. If they are playing s soon as DD9 wants to join the game stops or SD16 gets up and stops playing with the kids or tells DD9 to "stop". I try to limit contact with her and DD9 but its not always possible. She's around a lot less these days but my bio is at the age where teenagers are cool and whether I like it or not I think she looks up to her.
SD16 graced us with her presence last week and we went and grilled at the lake and did some fishing off the dock. Sd16 RUINED the night for everyone, this is just one example of her shitty behavior towards everyone. DD9 "SD16 look I caught one" SD16 "the suns in my eyes I can see anything"......
DD9 has a negative attitude towards SD16 bc of how she treats her but really really wants her to like her. We have talked to both of them about this situation numerous times. SD16 wants nothing to do with her and thinks she's gross and annoying. DD9 said after the fishing night " I just want to be SD16's friend and I want her to think I'm special"
I have no time for SD16 and her behavior. FDH DID call her out on her behavior and she doesn't care. WE explained to DD9 that SD16 is rude and it's not ok to make someone feel that way and to just stay away from her (she's hardly around her at all anyway)
PISSES ME OFF! Anyone else dealt with this before?