SD14 ruining relationship with partner
This is my first post on this forum. I have read everyone's stories with interest and can identify with the similarities. I have 3 step children, two of whom are teenagers. The SS18 is a lovely kid and a delight to be around. He studies hard and is now at university. We get on well. The bad news is that my SD14 is a very different character and we don't get on. She lives in another country to us and visits regularly, often for extended periods of time during the school holidays. She's a bad house guest in my home, doesn't help with chores and leaves mess everywhere including dirty tissues. She's very rude towards me and ignores me, pretending not to speak English even though I know she can. She is very clingy with her dad and clicky with him when she visits us. My fiance told me that she can do whatever she wants in our flat or else she won't come any more. The distance between me and her is great which suited me fine before my son was born in March of this year and I've been on maternity leave ever since. Now we are thrown together 24/7 when she visits and I can't escape to work or the gym like I used to. I know that she's a typical teenager and messed up kid who hates me but I can't face the rest of my life like this as I'm so unhappy. My fiance can't see things from my point of view and does nothing to help the situation. Last time she visited, I escaped to my parents' place which is a 5 hour drive away (difficult when you have a baby who needs a bottle feed every couple of hours). I don't want to throw everything my fiance and I have built together away plus we have a baby together but I feel that the situation is not fair on me at all and my life is ruled and had been completely ruined by a 14 year old.