Passive Agressive Behaviour of the SDs
Hi there, I'm new here and loving reading all the past posts - finally a bunch of people out there who are having the same struggles as I am, and some far worse.
I am part-time step-mum to my DP's 2 x entitled two teenage princesses. We see them every other weekend and he sees them once during the week for supper (I am away with work some days during the week so I thankfully don't get involved with this daddy-time).
I have always struggled with the situation. The SDs treat DP like their boyfriend - I see from past posts this is quite common. Not only is it creepy but it undermines my position as he partner. He seems not to notice - I guess it's behaviour he is used to and is probably responsible for, having brought them up until around 5 years ago. ESD is very proprietorial and bosses and nags DP, she also hugs and kisses him from time to time (like a lover would). YSD on the other hand drapes herself all over DP when she gets the chance, lies over him, hangs off him and generally tries to come between us. They are a mean double act!
They are not overly hostile to me. They are polite on a superficial level - they say please and thank you, etc. BUT show no warmth towards me, they direct all questions,etc to DP (even though it's usually me who should be answering - e.g. Dad, what time is dinner when quite clearly am standing there doing the cooking). Its quite plain they come only to visit DP. There is a part of me that wishes they were nasty or rude cos then I would have something to complain about but when I complain about their passive/aggressive behaviour to DP, it sounds a bit lame cos they're technically not being nasty to me - just makes me feel so uncomfortable in MY own home. I dread the EoW visits and resent spending half of my precious weekend with someone else's kids.
Just needed a vent...thanks for reading!