Four weeks ago the bm wanted to change weekends because she was going away for the weekend (with new hubby). Our answer was NO. We are not running a babysitting service. My husband has "visitation", not babysitting. I plan ahead and don't undo plans for "her" convenience.
Well, she got her daughter (24) to watch him that weekend. So if my calculations are correct, the bm only saw her son one weekend that month. (Funny how she gets out of watching HER KID.)
Now this manchild (16 & 6ft) seems neglected SOMEHOW. He is fed & kept safe but I don't think his mom pays real attention to him. He is a big kid & has never been in ANY sport/play/choir etc. NADA,NOTHING ZILCH.
Now that has been my "presumption" all along-----come to find out, the weekend he was left at home with his sister he was smoking pot.
I could tell something was wrong with dh & he finally told me. The bm called him last week.
My dh is devastated.
If I had not seen my son 3 weeks out of 4 when he was 16, my son would have been on pot too. I would have called myself a neglectful parent. Somehow nowadays, pawning your kids off is all okay.
Our parenting styles are sooooooo different.
Thanks for letting me vent!