The Inappropriate Clothing Talk
How have others handled this.
SD11 is "developing" and is 1/2 kid and 1/2 teenager in the same body. It's difficult to find clothes for her and she is very thin with long limbs. DP discussed this with me before we went to find her some new clothes which she really needed. We agreed no leggings and limit shirts to only a few (since we will be taking her to get summer clothes next month). She tends to wear leggings with short shirts like her SD9 wears, which is completely fine for a 9 yo. DP is aware that it's not quite right for SD11 any longer. He came to this conclusion all on his own BTW!
So at the store we had SD11 pick only jean type pants. There were only three she would agree to try on. I want with her into the changing room.
First pair she couldn't get on passed her large feet. Those out.
Second pair looked and fit great. Her complaint: these aren't soft (for jeans they were). They scratch around my waist. They are too baggy. I hate them. Note she has never ever worn any pants other than leggings her whole life. I let her know, nicely, that she has to start wearing other styles of clothing now that she is getting older and her body is changing. That HER DAD was the one that said no leggings. Cue tears. But not a tantrum amazingly enough.
Third pair: she actually did try on to my surprise but they were way too short.
So no pants.
We found DP and I explained what happened and he very nicely told her she couldn't keep wearing the leggings like she has been because she is older. "Fine, then I will have BM get them for me." DP: "your BM shouldn't be getting these for you either at this point."
DP ended up compromising with SD11 by agreeing to legging ONLY if she wears a skirt or tunic top with them. I said to both of them that was a great compromise with no real fighting. DP is also getting her a few more things (which he needs to make sure they come back to our place as we need them here...I predict he will never see them again which is why I don't buy clothes for them any longer).
I predict we will get into this again. How do people do this? I don't want to give her a complex like my parents gave me about my body when I was younger but appropriate clothing needs to be chosen...