I just want them to leave!!
My skids mother left them with us. She just up and left one day. We had started parental abandonment proceedings when she showed back up and demanded for them to given back to her. Obviously the judge said no and my DH and I were grant sole legal custody. They have joint physical custody, and the skids are allowed to visit their mother two times a month. That was 7 years ago. Fast forward to today. The oldest sd has moved out, there are two left. Sd17 and SS14. Ss is alright but the remaining sd is horrible. Just like her older sister. Every single chance they get, they rip me to shreds. DH and I have been married 11 years and the only time I'm happy is when those demon spawn kids are gone. I feel terrible and I feel like a horrible person because I want to tell them to just stay with their mother and never come back. DH doesn't actually parent, they do what ever they want. I do not even usually greet SD and likewise she doesn't greet me. She will be 17 in March and I want her to leave. How do I even go about getting over that? The history between those kids and me is tumultuous at best. Their mother feeds their negative feels. I never even had the chance to build a relationship with them. I didn't really want to. I felt like she threw them on me when just took off. I didn't sign up full time mother status on those kids. I have three of my own kids and I missed a great deal of time with them because I was forced to take on the skids full time. I truly just want them to leave. Do I just continue to keep my mouth shut, ignore their horrible behavior or do I say something? DH simply won't speak of how horrible his daughters are to me. He just walks off and I feel so alone. I deeply regret marrying a man that had young children. Step parenting is fine but I wish I had married a man with grown kids or no kids. I regret marrying into this with every fiber of my being.