How close is too close
I am with my boyfriend for four years. The first theee were long distance. Him in Indiana me in NY. We live together now with his 16 year old son. We relocated to Borth Carolina. His daughter is still in Indiana attending college. She lives on her own while working and going to school. She gets a scholarship for free college so she has to stay in Indiana. She can't wait to be done and move here to be with us. I love her and her brother. I do not have kids of my own and pretty much lived on my own terms forever.
my issue is, his daughter has no social life. She always relies on her dad, her best friend, to entertain her. Obviously when she comes to visit I expect to spend non stop time with her and all of us as a family.
but I'm afraid she will move here and love in with us and tha will be the end of my boyfriend (soon to be hisband) and i. she has no life of her own. And my bf tells me that it's not weird that she is so close to him. Umm yea it so weird. She's going to be 20. She should be hanging out with friends and not relying on her dad for all emotional and social support.
i absolutely positively do not want to live with her. I know I will be miserable everyday. I also know that this wouldn't be happening for a few years so I really shouldn't even be worrying about it. But I cannot stop thinking about it. If she hears us arguing she butts in and I honestly feel like I'm hanged up on. I don't bring this up to him because it would just be a fight. But it's consuming me. I'm so afraid and I absolutely do not want to be miserable. She shouldn't be relying on her dad for this much emotional and social aipport
they should be close but not best friends. She is 20!!!!
im afraid him and I will not have a life together and I just don't know if I can do this and I'm scared of what the future looks like. I love him but I'm really afraid. I want her close but NOT living with us. I want her close but NOT spending every damn weekend with us.
why can't she just have a life!!! I know this post is all over the place. But that's where my head is lol
thanks for listening. I hope to make friends in this group. I'm new to my area and I don't have any yet.