How to carry on when PSA is an issue and only brings hurt
DH hasn't been reaching out to his alientated daughter that much because the responses are always so nasty, disrespectful and filled with lies. So he decided he wanted to reach out and also share some good news with her because it was something that if she heard elsewhere and not from him he would have never heard the end of it.
So the response to the news and his general concern for his daughter was all nasty, it was accusing him of not caring, asking him not to attend the next meeting at the therapy school because she doesn't want to see him (she doesn't want him to oppose her fight to attend the regular high school) that he did nothing for her 14th b-day (he called and texted her MULTIPLE times trying to make plans and then she ended it with "I never want to see you, I hate you") and that when he dropped off money to her mom why didnt he come to the door, she watched him through the window and she was home (yes because it was standard for him to just show up and also that she would EVEN come to the door if he did, she wouldn't have)
Ended with some crazy talk about how she cannot believe he would be with me (a crazy cunt is what she called me, I cannot roll my eyes far enough back) who "disrespected his daughter". It's all so hiliarous because it's all bullshit. She hates that once I was in the picture that I "changed her dad" no I made it so he stood up to BM and SD when they teamed up against him and tried to rule his life. She loved me, She LOVED to talk to me, She said I made it easier for her to relate to her dad, she and I were SO CLOSE. Now I am one of the issues and I know her narrative needs to be consitent so she has a reason to hate her dad (she really has no reason) but it all hurts.
So I don't think DH will be reaching out again because every time he does its met with nastiness and then him having to state none of it is true and he loves her, but seriously HOW MUCH CAN SOMEONE TAKE? I told him he is not a bad person by protecting his own mental health, I want him to have a relationship with his daughter but I am not sure this is the time it will happen.