He's driving me crazy What do I do? Seriously considering medicating myself....
My husband and I had been separated for three yrs. The separation was my idea. The straw that broke the camel's back three yrs ago landed when my SS stole my grandmothers rings (again) and my coin collection, that once found had most of the coins missing. I told my husband that I was either going to call the police or I was going to move. I chose to move.
Fast forwarding three yrs, my husband and his children, now 14(SD) and 16(SS) moved in with me over the Christmas break. We are once again together as a family unit. My SS's stealing has started again. Lying is a major issue as well. Watching rape porn has been an issue. He's also had some community service time because of a theft of school property.
His father, my husband, is a retired police officer with a military background. Guns tend to be a major topic in this house. I refuse to allow my SS to have guns while living in my home. He has anger issues. I don't want to become a statistic.
This child continues to push, continues to steal, continues to lie. He's the munipulation King. He gets grounded, reprimanded, suffers consequence, and yet nothing seems to change.
The irony here is that I'm becoming the monster. Dealing with the issues 24/7 has stressed me beyond my limits. I'm trying to remain rational, but at times I fail miserably. My husband refuses to talk to me. If he would just discuss the issues, I think I would not be so stressed. But discussing the issues cause him stress which at times leads to dispare.
We've engaged a counsler and met in our home once a week. To be fair there are "moments" were I can see progress. But I fear it may be at the expense of my sanity and my marriage.
I want to be able to step outside of my self, or better yet, outside of my emotions, and be able to approach this kid from perhaps a more clinical perspective. But I can't seem to allow myself to disengage emotionally.
I truley want to help this kid, but I also want to maintain my marriage and my sanity. It's sink or swim time....anybody have a life preserver....rope....air tank....anything?