First Post-Sneaky/Possibly Spying Stepchildren
I have been stalking the forums for a couple of weeks now and decided to make an account, as I feel that I will need it. I find *I've* been the bad guy when I've tried to ask for help in other forums where other posters may not understand the ins and out of essentially raising someone elses kids.
To give some background: I am the soon-to-be stepmother to two children (an 11 year old and a 13 year old). We have your typical every-other-weekend set up, and your stereotypical unfriendly mother-of-kids to boot. I have met her a handful of times and we are polite to eachother. She and my fiance were never married, and dated for a couple of years. I was, myself, a stepchild and am concerned that I do not repeat the mistakes my stepmother made.
Our issue: the SKs have been relatively well-behaved for us, but this last weekend we noticed a marked pattern emerging of snooping around and sneakiness. This is the first time we have seen them since a conversation between the parents didnt go well in which my FI (politely) refused to give her additional money for something above and beyond her support payments. She was none too happy and made a couple of foreshadowing comments/thinly-veiled threats about how she plans to get the money out of him.
Regarding the SKs: in the course of a weekend they lied to us 4 times (minor issues) and suddenly developed a habit of locking themselves in the bathroom to take calls from their mother. This is of concern because of her 10-year history of stalking behaviors and snooping, and we are worried she is using the kids to get information.
In addition, I caught the oldest one trying to read my phone over my shoulder a few times, which is a brand new. I also noticed the youngest poking through bills on our counter.
They have since gone home and we have started to take measures to secure any private information we wouldnt want getting passed along. I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this.