Feeling violated once again by a sneak....leave my stuff alone!
Just when I think things are on the right track, SD14 is turning out to be liar. My husband and I are pretty liberal people and just want the kids to pick up after themselves, respect our property and pretty much the world is theirs. One of my big issues is that my closet and my bathroom are off limits. Over and over and over I have found things that are missing - expensive hairbrushes, makeup and creepily enough my thong underwear. Things like high heels that I don't typically wear have been found by accident in my SD's closet when we have finally had enough when her room looks like a disaster and we do our weekly raid and bag everything up. Two weeks ago I got in my bath and my razor and shampoo were missing. She had taken them and put them in the shower and never had the courtesy to put them back. I chalked it up to teenagers being teenagers. Last week, my mascara and favorite eyeliner were missing. 6:30 in the morning and not quite happy about scrambling around. I asked SD14 if she had borrowed it - told her "honey, if you want to talk about makeup I will take you for a professional and get you your own"and said it's really not hygienic to borrow other people's stuff. She looked at me and said no she never would take it. I went back in my room and when I went to leave for work my mascara was magically in my handbag. I NEVER carry it in there. She laughed as said I must have thought it was lipstick and threw it in there. Well today, I went in her room and found a makeup case (which she clearly sneaks from her mom - her mom shames her for anything that is remotely feminine and anything not involving basketball shorts). I looked in there and guess what? My eyeliner and other expensive cosmetics, a flat iron AND a white thong she had balled up in a shopping bag. This, after I took her shopping all weekend. I am skeeved out and beyond PISSED. Seriously, to sit there and LIE to me and sneak through my stuff when I am gone AND take advantage of my trust. I am DONE with our house being treated like a dump by SS12 and SD14. I am DONE not being able to by new furniture because our house gets wrecked and I am NOW I can't even have my own space?????? And all I have ever done was to encourage her to be herself, come to me with questions, etc. Trust violated and she's turning out like her mom. So disappointing. Leave my lingerie alone!