At the end of my rope!!!!
I am ready to give up and walk away. I love my husband but the ex and the kids are killing me.
2 years ago my hubby moved to be closer to his kids. They came EOW and no issues we all had fun. I have 3 kids and we would get everyone together Sunday and go for family time. His kids are SD15 and SS12. 14 months into this blended family my hubby and I went out of state for a wedding and took NONE of the kids. We stayed with family and none of the kids were invited to the wedding as it was an adult affair. SD gets mad and being a spoiled brat thanks to bio-mom refuses to see dad. This went on for 9 months. Dad tried and begged the kids to come but nope. SS has no backbone so when mom supported this temper tantrum he went along with the games. Dad texted both kids daily telling him he loves them etc and all he got was from SD "Dad I have a life and your not a part of it". So he files in court to get time sharing. Mediation was ordered and during the session Mom said "kids want to visit with dad exclusively" therefore eliminating me which hurt but whatever. BTW hubby is disabled and doesnt make a decent wage, its MY money that paid for all activities in the past. At first hubby refused BUT when his hand was dealt he gave in and agreed. As they ALL walk out of the room mom says "BTW We (the kids and mother) dont care what you do with the kids WE all just wanted to see how far youd go" and THAT was a huge kick in the teeth. So forward 2 visits. He brings the kids back to the house because he doesnt have money to do anything and his arthritis is killing him so the kids ask where I am. He explains that I didnt want to be there because I for one WILL adhere to the agreement regardless if I am the only one I will not give anyone any reason to complain that he didnt follow the agreement. So on the day visits I go out and give him the house for his visit. I am not OK with this. I am being expected to leave my home because the mother does not like me and the kids mostly SD is a brat and she is mad at me for not giving the money for a plane ticket to get her up the wedding.
We are on the 3rd visit and the ONLY one abiding by this agreement is ME. And its causing such resentment. MY hubby is mad at me because I will not stay home with him and his kids. My kids go to their dads weekends so they arent around either. He and I had a huge fight over this and I told him I really dont want to see his kids. Id never show my anger to them but I am ready to walk away from my hubby. We almost broke up over this and now even he wont abide by the agreement that just about was the reason we parted ways.
I have noone to talk to about this and I cant open up to my partner because all it does is make him attack me and throwing my kids in my face.. I dont know what else to do.. Am I being unreasonable?