Didn't Take Long......
I had SDstb13 brush her teeth at 830pm. We were both in a good mood. I haven't asked her to brush her teeth in 4 weeks, but DH is out of town. I was hoping SDstb13 would go to her room, wind down for the night. She's a sweet kid at times but is turning into a space cadet PITA lately.
I texted DH and asked him to text SDstb13 to remind her of bed time. It hasn't really been enforced much, but DH has asked her before to get in her room and lights out at 10:30pm. Trying to get ready for the school year. DH texted her around 9pm. I shouldn't have done it, but I opened the door and looked down the hall. No light under the door. I call her name down the stairs. Nothing. I walk down to the kitchen and open the basement door. Voila! We have light! It is 9:30pm and I am on fumes. I call out to SDstb13.
OK, maybe she has her earbuds in. I walk down the stairs which are extremely creaky. She MUST have her earbuds in, right? I turn the corner and she is halfway through a pint of Ben & Jerry's. LMAO Caught her "mid-spoon." She just brushed her teeth! I asked if DH had texted her to go to her room and lights out at 10:30pm? She almost played the dumb card but then muttered "yes." "So why are you down here? That was a half hour ago? DH and I are a team, SDstb13. Whatever he does, I know, and whatever I do, he knows. So I know he texted you about getting to your room. Get upstairs NOW."
((((((-commencing tree snail mode-)))))))
She says she has to come back for her stuff, the infamous iPod Touch and iPad. Oh no, you bring it NOW, you're not coming back down here again. I will stand by here and supervise to make sure you get this right. <----I actually said that. LOL
She gathers her stuff and I go up to the kitchen. A minute passes and I call out, "Hey I should be in bed now, move it." A little bit of a tude but not too much and she gets upstairs.
Then I did it. I even did it calmly with SD19 upstairs. I told SDstb13 to give me her iPod and (DH's) iPad, I was keeping them in my room tonight. Told her we need to get this bedtime routine under control, otherwise she'd be on the internet until 3am. It's too bad she's turning into a moron. I know, she'll thank me when she's older.
I talk to SD19 briefly in the hallway, tell her SDog was yellow, is still yellow after a bath, from peeing himself.....I notice the iPad has a password lock on it and the cover is missing. Um, this is DH's iPad and mine, too, for that matter. He moved onto tablets and notebooks and I got the iPad, but never used it. I go back to SDstb13 and tell her to make it NOT password protected, asking, "Isn't this Dad's iPad? And where's the cover?" Come to think of it, she's pulled the protective film off of the glass, too. I tell her not to lock it, ever, again, and when she gets her own, she can lock it, when she's 16. Maybe. I asked why she locked it. Duuuhhhh, I dunno.
So the goods are in my room now. I will make this a nightly thing. Skids need boundaries, order and structure in their lives. If DH doesn't think I'm tired at the end of every day he is mistaken. He knows I am. Yet I was the parent for the past 1-1/2 years to this SDstb13 when she moved in FT. I did it for DH. So SDstb13 would be a better person for it. I helped her with school, she did great. Then puberty hit and the nuclear meltdown hit at the beginning of July. I disengaged then. I haven't done much in a month.
Are you kidding me? I just left my post to make sure the Skid brushed her teeth. I figured there might be a dry toothbrush. What?!?!?!
We just paid close to $5,000 for braces a few months ago. There is NO toothbrush in the bathroom. :? I go down the hall and calmy but firmly tell SDstb13 to brush her teeth. Remember she went into the bathroom at 8:30pm Uh huh......Stupid me, the SM.
She was at a sleepover the night before last and took her toothbrush. It hadn't made it out of her room since she returned last night?
So she didn't brush last night.
She didn't brush this morning.
And she didn't brush earlier at 8:30pm when I asked her to.
I told her DH would have to watch her brush her teeth. I always think I can trust this kid and she keeps letting me down. I should have been asleep in bed at 9pm but I am babysitting now at 10:15pm. I'm going to take her gadgets to work with me tomorrow. When DH texts her he won't be able to reach her. (She's in the bathroom now, I made her keep the door open. She's flossing and everything. LOLOL I used to work for a dentist too.)
Silly me for being played for a fool. Just like DH. Dammit.