I am a widowed mother of 2 (kids are 23 and 18 yrs old). My daughter (23) has moved out and my son (18) is currently in college. For the most part, they were easy to raise, they behave, are polite and respectful. I remarried 6 years ago to a man with 2 kids of his own (now 16 and 12). My stepdaughter (12) is pretty good for the most part. My stepson is as well, however, I am having difficulty dealing with him now smoking marijuana. Dad doesn’t seem to mind as long as he keeps it from our home. He has not done this and it upsets me to no end. And when I say anything, my husband thinks I’m picking on him and tells me he’s a good kid. I never allowed this with my kids. Drugs was an absolute no, especially since my first husband/kids’ dad died of an accidental overdose of pain medication. I have zero tolerance. Yet I feel like my husband and my SS do not care. The other issues I’m having is my SS is just plain disrespectful. He thinks he knows everything, he is manipulative, he lies, he’s selfish and rude. My husband favors him so he doesn’t seem to notice, gives in to everything he wants, and believes the lies. Yet, I want to scream at the top of my lungs every time I notice this behavior. SS’s mother is hardly in the picture. She favors her daughter and does very little for her son. She is a narcissistic sociopath so I wonder if he is the apple not falling far from the tree. Things were different in the beginning. We meshed well, our kids got along, we seemed to fit and have the same goals for our family. However, now I’m starting to wonder if I should’ve thought marrying my husband through a little more. Now that I’ve had to deal with his ex, see how different our parenting styles are when it comes to his son only, and how my feelings don’t really seem to matter when it comes to SS, I’m wondering if it’s time to move on or if this is worth fighting for.