HHB = her high b***hness...my nickname for SD. She is heading to court for driving her girlfriend's car (yes you read that right) without a license and hitting a parked car!

I seriously can't see HHB talking to the judge in any kind of way that is respectful! She doesn't know how!!! All she knows is disdain and sweet talk. BM said that the way she was told court will work is that they have to check in at 5:00 p.m., and then sit there and wait for HHB's name to be called. There are about 30 cases being heard in that time slot, which means that HHB and BM will be there a while (as our last name is toward the end of the alphabet). I can easily see the both of them being frustrated by the wait by the time they get around to calling HHB up, and HHB does not do well to control her "respectfulness" when she is frustrated!

And I had to laugh to myself when DH told HHB on the phone to be sure to wear something nice and respectful. She left all the "nice and respectful" clothing at our house, and took with her all of her hoochie stuff! To HHB, "dressing nice" means a strapless dress with some flimsy thing thrown over the top of it!

If the Dumbo Trio doesn't go to court, it ALL falls on them anyway! DH's name is no where on any of the stuff thus far! When they escorted HHB home, they talked to BM and step-dad, so their names are on all the reports and such. So if Dumbo Trio doesn't go to court, an warrant is put out for HHB's arrest, and likely for BM.

And I KNOW BM wants DH there to sign all the papers. I've warned him of this many times, and told him over and over to sign nothing! Being informed yesterday that HHB's girlfriend (and I found out the girlfriend's mom is also going...guessing they are going to provide "character testimony" to try to make HHB look sweet and innocent) really pissed him off! It's the "being tossed away" by HHB thing that is hitting him! He is really starting to feel used lately. Just Sunday, he was ready to not show up to take them at all, because neither BM nor HHB would ever return his texts or calls!!! Yet, he leaves a message for HHB telling her that she is about to lose her phone, and she returns the call right away, but is still very curt with DH on the phone. I can tell you, he is SERIOUSLY considering not even going at all...he told BM last night he is done bailing HHB out of her trouble, and she needs to start learning to deal with crap herself!

LOL...I almost wish I could be there. I could seriously see these two annoying the hell out of the judge. Just listening in on the phone call yesterday was painful! BM seriously sounds like she is on serious drugs! She was all over the place, and very slow in her speech. The whole time I found myself thinking, "Oh hell...this judge is going to think this woman is incompetent, and order the case to family court, and DH will get stuck with the girl! How am I going to keep this girl out of my house?!" Wonder if I can get a doctor to diagnose me with some anxiety or something where we can say she can't move back in for medical reasons! Yeah...she can't move back it because she is too much trouble and I'm on the verge of going postal or something!

I was telling DH yesterday that HHB is probably lucky that she got off with a slap on the wrist for the curfew thing, because if they pulled her record and saw she had been picked up just about 2 weeks before the incident, the judge would not show her any mercy. DH did bring up that it is possible that they could pull her school records, which shows all the other trouble (the alcohol, pot and skipping school, the e-cig incident), and if so, she could still be screwed! Looks like the only options she will have for community service that is close enough to her to get there are sorting crap at Goodwill or maid/grounds work at the YMCA! There is a very specific list that metro has posted for what they accept for community service. Both options she can only do weekday evenings and Saturdays...oh, poor baby...that will get in the way of her color guard stuff! What's more important? Color guard, or staying out of juvi? Am I getting too much joy out of this?

No Valentine's plans yet. It is a Saturday...may be a good day to head out to the hill country for wine tasting.

Talked to BD24 today. She has been seeing HHB's social media and asked me flat out if HHB had turned into a lesbian. BD24 isn't a person to hold things back. We talked a little about court being today, and BD24 agrees with me that the judge needs to order community service, and that hopefully HHB will have to quit color guard to make her community service hours. The girl needs to face some consequences!! She may be able to run from punishment at our house, but she won't be able to run away from the law.

As we were talking about HHB and how DH needs to quit "rescuing" her. BD24 says, "Yeah, what happens if something happens to you and dad? Who will bail her out then?" That put a thought into my head...what would happen if something happened to both me and DH at the same time? I made it a point to tell BD24 that under no circumstances is HHB to touch any of my stuff. I told BD24 that my stuff is specifically written up to exclude her! I said if anything were to happen to me and DH at the same time, BD24 and BS20 need to high tail it back home and take control of the property ASAP! I told her that I could promise entitled HHB and BM would try to take control, but HHB only has legal right to 1/6 of mine and DH's COMBINED estate, and NO RIGHTS to any property that was considered my personal property (i.e., my doll collection, my collection of autographed things, my musical instruments, my cars, my clothing, etc.). Probate law in our state says if I go, my half is split 50% to DH, and 25% to each of my bios...none goes to HHB as she is not my legal child. If something happens to DH, his half is split 50% to me, and the other 50% is split 3 ways between HHB, BD24 and BS20, because DH adopted my bios and they are his legal children. So, if we both go together...my half is split 50/50 between BD24 and BS20, and DH's is split 3 ways between HHB, BD24, and BS20...meaning, HHB only has legal right to 1/6 of the combined estate! I told BD24, "You know, with BM egging her on, HHB will think she is entitled to more, and try to take it from you...trying to claim that because you and your brother were not natural born to dad, she should get 50% of the total estate, but that is WRONG...you have as much rights as she does, which is why dad adopted you!"

I know, not the kind of discussion you want to have with your kids, but now that my bios are adults, and because anything can happen, they need to know what their rights are. Like I've said...I've made sure everything is written up correctly, too. And I told BD24, "And your grandfather has already told me that when he goes, all of his horns come to me." (my dad is 72). I told BD24 that under no circumstances is HHB to get her hands on those! BD24 agreed, "Oh, no...those are grandpa's...that is who he is...those need to be passed down to our kids someday!" So, my bios have their instructions, and they are fully ready to fight! LOL

Yeah, we really need to do that...especially since DH never retrieved the key from HHB. We need to change the locks and send keys to BD24 and BD20.

I told DH that BD24 knows that HHB is dating girls now...she saw all the stuff on social media. DH sounded like he wasn't surprised that the older ones would soon be calling and asking. I wonder if my MIL has already called him and asked what was up with all that. I also told him that BD24 said that HHB should be glad that she is tied up with work and stuff now, and didn't have the money to hop a plane, because she is ready to bring her happy butt home to pull HHB aside and give her a talking to. DH said, "Maybe that is what she needs!" I reminded him, "Um, you do remember that BD24 is a 'no bullshit' person, right? She will not be nice about it! She will get in HHB's face and tell her she is being a f**king idiot!" Again, DH replied, "Maybe that is what she NEEDS!"

DH thinks it the standard song and dance for these cases. He said they went through the six teens that actually showed (there were supposed to be some 30 cases heard, and that is all that showed) in like 30 minutes! You also have to remember that she only got a wrist slap for the curfew thing, so there is no record of it, and as far as the city prosecutor was concerned, she is a first-time offender (as she didn't know anything about HHB's previous trouble).

Unfortunately, it is sounding like BM is moving closer to us. Right now, she lives in the city itself...then you have a bunch of small towns which are actually more like suburbs of the city because of how things have grown. The city is 20 miles from us, and BM informed us that she is moving to the next down over from us (there are two towns between us and the city)...only about 10 miles from us. HHB will be going to the same school that her girlfriend is currently going to...which also happens to be the same school my niece goes to. My biggest fear there is that HHB will end up being a bad influence on my niece, who is a hear behind HHB! My niece has a lot going for her...great soccer player, wants to be a physical therapist, gets great grades, etc. I would hate for her to start hanging around with HHB and start getting into trouble.

But to answer your questions, because it is still the metro area, she will still be within reach of the law handing down her sentence. That means if she doesn't complete, she will still get picked up. Since metro covers 2 counties, the counties are good at working together....and HHB will still have to go into metro whenever she wants to go to the mall, which is all the time.

DH said they had to option to just pay both tickets (which, since DH was not ponying up the money for that, they passed), or do a deferred adjudication plan with the small fine, community service, and the class. The prosecutor dropped the ticket as part of the deal...I guess to make it more attractive.

As for the damage to the other car, HHB's GF's parents' insurance is covering that, with the GF's parents paying a deductible...supposedly. The parents bought the GF a new car, so...in other words...no punishment for her either for being stupid to allow an unlicensed driver to drive her car! GF's parents has asked BM to pay half of the deductibles for both cars. BM tried to ask DH to pay half of her half, and I was so proud when he said, "Well, seems to me that is something that should come out of the child support, as it does not fall under my responsibility per the court order, and she caused the damage while in your custody!" So basically, BM is responsible for finding a way to pay for her half. The two deductibles still sounds fishy to me...and DH agrees. I know you have to pay a deductible if you are repairing your own car and the damage was your fault or something covered under comprehensive (such as hail damage, a tree falling on your car, etc.), but I've never heard of having to pay a deductible for your insurance to fix the OTHER person's car! That seems counter-productive to me, as the law requiring insurance is put into place so that if you damage someone else's property with your car, the other person will get their stuff fixed or replaced without worry about whether or not you have any money. I've never had an insurance company ask me about deductibles in my liability coverage. DH thinks that the GF's parents are trying to get BM to pay their full deductible for the GF's car, since they are taking the hit on insurance, and that BM just isn't relaying the information right. Remember...the woman is not all there, and has a very difficult time verbalizing a complete thought.

Bad thing is, still no one is insisting on HHB getting a job to help pay for all this crap! Nope...she is just going on like nothing happened, and this court thing is just a small inconvenience to her! DH did mention that one of the things they found on the list close to their house involves caring for animals...it is some farm/park where they have farm animals because it is a recreation of history...kind of like a museum or something. DH was saying HHB seemed really interested in doing that because of the animals. I had to laugh inside, because I don't think that HHB has any idea what the job will entail!!! I can already see her...having to carry slop to the pigs, shoveling poop out of pens, etc. She thinks it is playing with the animals...boy will she be in for a surprise!