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Trickybk's picture

Submitted by Trickybk on Sat, 04/24/2021 - 7:23pm

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Teenage Stepchildren

SS soon to be 18, but acts 8. Dad gets upset when I call to his attention that his son never cleans up, expects food when he comes over and expects to be entertained. He never lifts a finger when he's over to help in any way (his room stays filthy). Yet, dad gets frustrated and voices the same complaints about his own son and even takes his frustrations out on me (just being short and crabby with me). So, why am I the bad guy? And he wonders why I disengage and don't want to do things with them.

JRI's picture

Submitted by JRI on Sat, 04/24/2021 - 11:36pm

It's more comfortable being mad at you than at the,SS.

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Submitted by tog redux on Sun, 04/25/2021 - 6:30am

Yes, he's afraid if he acts like a father, his son won't come around anymore.  He'd rather make you the bad guy than admit he's being a poor parent and is afraid of his own kid. He'd rather ensure that his son is unable to function like an adult than face his fear of losing him.

I hope you make him clean up after SS.

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Submitted by Guilfoyle on Mon, 04/26/2021 - 9:22pm

Trust me the father won't change if that's what your looking for. Just leave everything and let the father clean it up. It's not your job. Tell him how you feel and that your not doing it.