19 and still 13?
So DD turns 19 in less than 2 weeks. She lives at home, goes to university.
She does not make friends easily, does not see the value. Most friendships have been lost by moving as a child from different day cares when they allowed her dad to pick her up drunk. She never brought anyone home because she or we could never guarantee he would not be drunk or volatile. We moved away where he could not reach us when she was in grade four and recognizing the problem I put her in hockey hoping she would experience friendships with team mates.
She had acquaitences in high school but I never though of these girls as true friends, one died at the hands of a drunk driver, her grief was inconsolable although I thought their friendship was extrembly lose and superficial.
She went solo with a whole bunch of girls to prom, and was assaulted by captain of the high school footballs team.
She rarely goes out, spends time at home with us or studies. She sought counselling in university after the death of her friend, has gone out twice for dinner with old chums from hockey nothing more.
I can not lead by example isolated myself in the 14 years of torture I stayed with her dad, and quite frankly do not know how to make friends myself so have no advice for her.
Ladies, any advice, (she will not join clubs in case you think of that).