No End In Sight...
Hello, I am new to this site. I am a 45 year old man, who is overwhelmed, full of anger, and have tried just about everything else I could imagine.
I have reached out to friends, family, co-workers, and, even law enforcement. None have been helpful.
I married my wife, around this time last year. She has two adult children, a young woman, 23, and a young man (yes, 19 is a man in my book), 19.
I have had few issues with my step-daughter.
My step-son is a complete different story.
He quit school at the age of 17, and has worked a couple jobs, for a couple months at a time, since dropping out of high school. I did not know him then, as I met his mother when he was 18 years of age.
A little background...
My step-son's name is Seth. He likes to smoke weed, and sell it, and other drugs like Xanax, and other scripts.
He bought a truck on Halloween, last Fall, and has yet to plate it. He has driven it around on the expired (pushing 2 months, now) temporary tag, and done his drug deals. Yesterday, while I was at work, he took a plate off of our other vehicle, and put it on his truck.
He has taken our jeep and caused minor damage. He ran into our porch with it, too.
Our home was broken into last winter. They went downstairs in to basement and all they took was weed and Seth's drug money. They knew what they were there for, and grabbed it and left.
Seth has stolen THOUSANDS of dollars from us. I had to install key-entry locks on our bedroom door, and on the door of my wife's office, which is in the home as well.
In December, a young girl had Seth's child. She won't let him see the baby, due to his lifestyle. She has blocked all communication from Seth, and our family. My wife is unable to see her grand daughter, because her son is a complete jackass.
My wife is too worried that Seth will harm himself, as he has threatened to do on multiple occasions, if we were to throw him out of our home. I've tried to tell her that it's an act, and that he's merely manipulating her, but she won't listen.
I just don't care anymore. I will not help him.
I have begun to put money aside, in case I am forced to leave the house, or my marriage. I love my wife very much, and can't imagine life without her. But, I can't imagine living like this for one more day.
Her son is a their, liar, drug dealer, deadbeat dad, and he's unemployed. He is a complete loser.
I've tried to tell my wife that he's either going to prison, or she's going to bury him.
She will not listen.
I need some advice, beyond "get out of there", "kick his ass", or "call the police".
We have fought, I've called the police, and I don't want to leave my wife. So, those are no longer options.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.