Need to vent and get adivice
So this is my first time having to deal with a situation like this as my past partners have never had kids.
So I have been with my partner for over a year and she has 3 boys with her ex-husband, ever since I have known her the boys have always walked over her if they dont get their own way and get away with everything and when I try to step in to sort it she takes their side and defends the bad behaviour. They come down at the weekends as they live with their father during the week and even when they are there he buys them whatever they want to just keep them happy and doesnt really discipline them either. I know it is not my place to do anything but I hate seeing her being treated like this. If they dont get their way they act like f***ing animals.
Now she is complaining to me that I am not interacting with them and asking me if I hate her kids (which i do not) because I spend most of my time in my office upstairs out of the way as i dont want to say something that I will regret. I know I am all over the place with this and I hope you can understand where I am coming from. I just want to know what I can do.