So I presented this in a different form and I should have come to the place for father's to ask my question.
So I have a live in gf and she has 3 kids, I have two of my own. I have mine 99% of the time hers are now full time as well because they're BD move out of state. Bottom line is I am not a fan of her kids. They are rude to her constantly they are rude to my kids but strangely respectful to me. Her kids come from a physical and emotional abusive home and unfortunately they have seen and been through a lot. Also my gf has a difficult time disciplining them and she barely commands respect. I have tried to help with their behavior but it's difficult due to years of abuse and a very $hitty role model.
I want to continue our relationship but not sure if I want to continue to deal with her kids. Some thoughts on this would be appreciated.