Being Happy Without Consistent Rules?
I have a teenage SD that I started living with a couple of years back. Mom is super lax on rules, and the kid has days off from school and/or chores all the time and it just annoys the piss out of me to hear her in there playing around when she's supposedly sick or whatever. But I know it's not her fault because if we had it my way that wouldn't happen because my rule was to have no internet if there was no school.
But, there was a blowout the other day when I was mad she was staying home from school again about how I'm a dick and she needs to just be left alone and can do what she wants because I don't have experience with kids and I am just being mean on purpose so I give up and never ask her to do anything and there is no discipline because of it. Just getting days off every week or two and having fun at home because of course it's better than school when you can just fuck around all day.
Does anyone have advice on how to just stay happy even if you don't agree with the way your step-child is being raised? Am I just being a dick because I don't get how to parent? I have no experience with kids at all and I have a constant anger inside that makes me feel evil or something because I just can't be happy with this.
Sometimes I think I'm being unrealistic or crazy or whatever. Other than the not doing anything for most days like any teenager would do given the situation, she's a good kid.