Becoming a step father many concerns
I'm a 37 yr old sm male with no bio kids dating a single mom of 3. They have different fathers and ages are 21,14,6. They all live at home and I live there 6 days a week but have my own apartment that the lease ends this year at which point I am planning on moving in. I feel many times that my gf does not really get what I'm accepting by being in a relationship like this. The youngest is very disrespectful, hits me and his mother at times. Tells us to "shut it" when we talk to him. She'll discipline him but its inconsistent. I really don't like making much of a fuss about it at times because I feel I'd be constantly telling her how to parent which she is a loving mom, just lax and feeling sorry for her son. Unfortunately the family has a bad habit of making "insulting jokes" like, "i dont like you no more", "you're not my favorite anymore", "you're a punk". When I have asked her not to do this I get made to feel like a cry baby and told that she can't joke with me anymore then. I told her I already feel like a punk because I cant do much to a kid telling me to shut my mouth besides put him in the corner. His bio dad who sees him every two weeks doesnt have that problem. If he says stay in the car the boy won't leave the car. Makes me feel so weak but she doesnt get it. Any suggestions?