I hate his summer parenting schedule
I am new to StepTalk and I am just at the end of my rope. I am currently engaged to my 28 year-old boyfriend of 2 years and he has a 10 year old son who has high functioning autism, had some birth defects, and his extremely hyperactive but overall he acts and plays like a normal child. Overall we tend to all get along, but lately I have been disengaging myself from his son because his son is sooooooo much work! He is always talking, i mean like ALWAYS and repeating the same questions over and over again even after we have answered his question, or he asks a question and if we don't know the answer he gives us the answer, makes no sense to me. He is just a go-go-go kind of kid and there is nothing wrong with that but sometimes i just need some peace and quiet. I know it is not his fault that he was born the way he was, but even though he may be 10, almost 11, he acts like my 6 year old nephew and is very dependent and it is driving my crazy because he purposly acts dumb in some situations when he doesn't want to do something his dad or i ask him to do, like pick up his toys, making his bed, or even small things like turning on the shower, which we know he is capable and knows how to do.
The current dilema i am having is my fiance's summer parenting schedule because we have him for 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off throughout the summer and lately my fiance has been throwing it in my face that i never want to do anything with his son because i'm always tired after coming home from work. I work 8 to 10 hour days and i work Monday thru Saturday so yes i am tired! I honestly don't feel bad myself for disenaging because i am not being meaning to his son, i am just doing my own thing while he is over but it isn't what my fiance wants. I feel like he wants me to play mommy but i don't want to. I have told him many times now that i don't have to like his son, i don't have to love his son, but i do have to be a good person to his son and make sure he is okay, and he seems to take it in okay and then when when we have his son again we are back to sqaure one becuase as soon as his son walks in the door he always wants to do something and if we don't have anything planned he sighs and get into a bad attitude and frankly it doesn't make me want to be around him. I'm just going crazy in my own home and it's times like this that i won't even want to go home after a long day becuase i have to deal with my fiance trying to make me feel guilty for "not" wanting to spend time with his son but yet when my fiance works the graveyard shift he likes to have his aunt watch his kid so he can play video games but yet his excuses is he doesn't want his son to be "bored." And now i am starting to feel like he just wants me to be a nanny when i come home so he doesn't have to deal with him and go out and do things with him. I just don't know what to do or say anymore to my fiance so he will understand that i have a choice to be or not be around his son, i am not his mom and he doesn't try to make me feel guilty becuase he himself even says his son is a lot of work, and it is sad to say but i just can't want until this Friday when the 2 weeks are over so i can have some peace.