HELP!!!! Not diagnosed, possibly borderline autistic
I'm 32 years old without children of my own but I'm I've been a step mother to my husbands boys 5and 10 for 3 years now. My 10 year old is borderline autistic but my husband and his ex wife believe that he will grow out of whatever is going on. He's been in the same occupational theorpy for 5 years now and in the last 3 years there has been absolutely no improvement. Now if you talk to my husband and his ex they will say the complete opposite. I know they just want their child to be normal and I'm trying so hard to be understanding but I've got to the point where I'm having a hard time being nice to my stepson. My husband continues to tell me the things he does is normal. THEY ARE NOT NORMAL FOR A 10 YEAR OLD (maybe a 3-5 year old). I've done unbelievable amount of research and found several good doctors to at least get him help but I feel like im the only one that cares. He's bullied, can't pay attention, he has no friends, Ect. I would think a parent would want help with that.
Well I'm to the point of wanting a divorce, I can't handle him anymore and I'm tired of being the only one trying to get him help. I've gone to counseling about this and honestly it made my marriage worse. Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom?