I'm not sure how to feel
Ok bare with me because this is going to be long.
I myself am a child of divorce. I am my fathers only biological child but grew up with 4 step siblings. My parents believed in allowing me to make my own choices from a young age and as such I chose to live with my father when I was 6. That's where I remained until I moved out at 18 with varying levels of contact with my BM. She was very much involved but I went through stages of not wanting to see her and my parents never forced me.
I have never had a good relationship with both my BM and step mum at the same time. The biological father of my step mums kids vanished and it always seemed to annoy her that my BM was still in the picture. She truly wanted us to be a new family.
Moving on to when I met my husband, I moved abroad for him. My father and step mum massively supported me in doing so but I guess they never thought it would work out since when we got engaged they flipped a switch and demanded I move back home. I refused and there has been no contact since.
When my son was born I did get a message from my father asking for details about my son. I sent photos, I gave all details, I told him that despite us not having had much contact recently perhaps this could be a new start. Zero response.
Now my son has turned 1 and out of no where I get another message from my father wanting an update. Hinting he would like to meet him. No comment as to how or where he is wanting this meet to take place or if it's just lip service.
Would you guys go for it and see what happens or let a sleeping dog lie? I'd rather not introduce my son to a grandparent if hes not going to be consistent but at the same time I dont want to withhold family from my son. Where would you draw the line? Say fine but insist that he (or they) come here or me take my son back to my home country?