How do SKs and their children (GSKs) Act When They Are Around DH and You?
OK, I made it thru 15+ years of dealing with the SKs. I now consider myself disengaged at a level that is comfotrtable for me (and DH appears to be okay with this too). However, now comes the next batch--the GSKs. With my level of disengagement, I don't buy things much for them or remind DH of birthdays, etc., but I do continue to go with DH to family events that I feel I would enjoy and if I'm in the mood to go. Both of his children are now married and have children of their own.
Any kid is so cute to me. So, when it comes to seeing his grand-kids, I usually don't mind coming. It is fun to watch them grow. My DH sees them maybe once a month, and I go along about once every other month. However, I notice that whenever we go over to the SK's home, we just kind'a sit there and watch while they play with their kids. My husband may take a picture or two or video, and the grandkids may start to warm up to us and come over, and then, bing!, it's time to go because the kids have to eat or sleep, etc.
Is this normal? Maybe it is. I'm not offended by this per se, but just wondering if this is how it goes with SGKs or even just GKs? The kids are still young, around age 2 or so (again, so cute!), but I'm kind'a wondering the value of going over there just to watch the kids play with their parents? Or, maybe for the bios, it is just nice to see your grandkids no matter what? They don't always ask how we are doing, but how they (SKs) are doing usually comes up. What is everyone else's 2-cents?