CPS talking about placing SGKs ...
It's late and I'm blue. It seems too much effort to go through the entire story tonight, but here's the jist:
In a nutshell, SD-30, the AWOL, felony-outstanding-warrant, alcoholic left 3 kids behind. SO & SO's late wife adopted her at 10 from the foster system. SO's late wife died from ovarian cancer 5 years ago. (We had known each other 28 years ago in college and reconnected 3 years ago.)
SO raised SGD12 from 8 weeks til 8 years old. Court awarded custody to her biodad --- keep those biological families together. Now SO gets weekly visitation and he is quite clear that he has no rights. SD-30 also left 2 boys with another biodad behind when she ran.
Tonight, SO took SGD12 to visit her half-brothers. SGS7, SGS9 live with their biodad/SM and 3 other siblings in what looks like an old-time, one-story motel that converted to low-income housing. CPS was there discussing pulling all 5 children from the house due to the biodad's anger/abuse and who knows what else since is reported by SGD-12.
One of the boys has been kicked out of public school for putting another child in the hospital and is already in alternative schooling. Anger, violence, abandonment issues, probable learning issues/LD/ADHD. It is an absolute cluster-f*ck of poverty, drugs/alcohol and dysfunction.
I've kept separate households mainly because of the freakin' crazy-making dysfunction from now-absent SD-30 and her children being raised by biodads and SMs. I wasn't raised this way.
I have a BS-13 who does not need to be surrounded with this BS. I have to hold onto that thought.
I spoke with SO about bringing the boys in so that they won't got to foster care. He admits that he can't bring 2 troubled grandkids into his house if he will be parenting alone; he knows his weaknesses after trying to raise SD. I cannot open my small house to these two boys ... taking them swimming, small visitation stuff I can do ... but I can't take away from my own son in my attempt to right the wrongs of the Universe. I'm also responsible for my aged mother in a different town from SO & SGKs.
Just late night venting about wishing that I could change things and acknowledging that this was not my daughter, these are not my grandkids.
It just makes me blue