Am I in the wrong?
I am here to seek advice for a situation I'm dealing with. I have 2 step grandchildren, 4 and 1. I have been in their mothers' life since she was 15. She has always been a liar and will lie as easy as most draw breath. As an example, she once told me her cousins home was in flames and burning down. As it turns out, an outlet let a small puff of smoke out and there was no fire. A few days ago she told her kids father, that she had to bail her mother out of jail because she was pulled over by the police and they found drugs in the car. I was with her mother the whole day and I never saw any police. Anyway, I digress. My issue is I called her out on some of her lies and she blew up and was refusing to let me see the kids. Her exact words were, "You will never see my kids again you f****** loser." Now she has calmed down and her kids are asking for me. I will not let her use her kids as pawns when she deems it fit. I told her I won't see them until she gets mental help for her lying, among other things. She is diagnosed as bi-polar. I don't think it's fair to me for her to use her kids to hurt me. Am I in the wrong? Am I handling this the wrong way?? Please help.