When the kids ask you...
Pretty new on here but I thought it's the perfect place to see how others respond in this situation.
What do you say when the stepkid asks you to 'come see my room' or 'will you come to my birthday party?' And the BM is extremely high conflict & unpredictable? Its so awkward... what do you say? I havent been round kids a lot & I cant very well say I dont get on with your mum?!
My man has a SS (7) and SD (3). I have been with him for almost 2yrs, and handling it by keeping total distance from BM, has worked mostly so far.
Anyway, the SD asked me last year to come to her party, I managed to bluff my way out of it saying i was away that day, i felt awful but I'm actually quite afraid of this woman - most others in this town are!) It actually turned out to be a trap for me as her whole family and friends were there & she hates me (being the woman her man moved on with - lucky I never went, from the comments made to my man). Then the wee boy came to our house after his bday this year, first thing he said was 'why didnt you come to my party?' I hadnt even been invited... it was another set-up by BM to make me look bad.
Any tips on what to say to the kids gratefully accepted I'm not a real hands-on SM as I'm still getting used to them but we are friends and working on that