Trying to Find Balance
I just found this site & booked marked it immediately as I feel i'm not the only one feeling half crazy now lol.. Ok my thoughts & needed opinions are; I'm in a relationship with a woman, we're not married and i'm trying to find a balance of some kind. And i mean i'm really trying here. Long story short, we've known each other for 10 years, dated a couple years back (2007 - 2010), broke up and recently got together again. She has a 12 year old son that lives with us, i have a 15 year old daughter i have custody of who lives back on the east coast with grandparents because she didn't want to transfer high schools which i supported & respected.
Now my issues in this relationship are our differences of discipline, structure and responsibility. I have issues with my step son playing these playstation video games or on Youtube from when he gets home from school til night at 10pm nonstop. She seems to have no issues with it, i've spoken my mind about it numerous times and now i'm at a point of being tired of talking about it because clearly i'm not being taken serious. Last night he was up til 4am this morning playing the Grand Theft Auto 5 which i was against him getting in the first place. His grades dropped in school this week, so in her world it was fine to let him have one gaming day which supposedly was yesterday. So today he's getting another gaming day as if nothing ever happened. He has no chores, no taking out the trash, no putting the trash can on the curb, no dishes, no feeding the dog, no picking up the dog poop in the back yard which has to be done in this Vegas desert, basically nothing.. The life of just waking up, looking in the fridge eating what you want & complaining when what you want isn't there lol, watching Youtube all day, playing video games all day, taking a shower & go to bed and do it all over again. I implemented the chores & things when we were together the first time & he was on a good roll but in her mind & families mind i was a little too strict so that got the ax.
i guess I'm trying to understand if this is normal in today's households & if i'm just out of touch with reality now. I'm 37 years old & there's no way I'd allow my biological son to do this if i had one. A couple of hours is cool but not 40hrs on the weekend. And clearly she sees nothing wrong with it, as if it's just a convenience for her because he's out of her hair. For me its irritating, and maybe i'm out of touch with reality. Would like to get some other thoughts & opinions about this and if you deal with your kids and these video games.