punishing a 1 year old
I'm the SD in this situation, we were visiting the grandson, for his 1st birthday, and as any 1 year old will do, will touch things he shouldn't, as in this case he started to smack at the Christmas tree. So his mom grabbed him by the arm and spanked his naked butt, stating "NO" quite loudly.
10 minutes later he tried something else, and she grabbed him by both arms, and was saying "NO, LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME WHEN I AM TALKING TO YOU"
my opinion, she has anger issues, maybe I can look the other way with the spanking, but it was the arm grabbing and the look in her eyes when she was speaking to him.
unfortunately, the 'father' my wife's son, said nothing and almost seems in fear of her. We both agree that if we say anything, this is ammunition for her to limit visits with the grandson and keep trying to cut ties between mom and son (my wife and wife's son)