Nervous about DHs upcoming DNA test with SD
I don't even know why I feel so nervous about this dna test. I'm buying the kit in a few weeks and it'll be used in a few months; we can afford it better in a few weeks and the kit lasts a year.
What would happen if DH isn't the father? It would break his heart, and mine. He made child maintenance aware of his doubt the day he got put on the system for child maintenance, its been 2 years now.
We just haven't been able to afford it until now, very low income.
DH is on the birth certificate and has parental responsibility. That's why we're doing a private DNA test, £99 from alphabiolabs.
We're both really worried about it, and I guess we both need to know what could happen if he's not the father, because that's the unknown for us. If he's the father then nothing will change, and BM won't be told. But if he's not the father, we know the first thing we need to do is tell BM. But then what? I've tried looking on the internet to provide answers but I've come up with nothing decent; all about what if a father denies paternity.
I'd also like to know what you think based on what we know:
Conception date would have been April 3rd 2014 at the latest, DH didn't see BM until the 8th April 2014; they went camping together on the 8th, any other time they lived in different towns. A good 2 hours away.
DH swears he wore protection, because he didn't want to have a child at 16.
BM says she only missed one pill, I find this very unlikely.
We also know that BM cheated on DH when they were together. We're not sure how long it went on for or anything.
My theory is that DH went back to his home town, he lived in our town for a year then went back, BM started messing around with other guys because DH wasn't around.
BM and I went to the same school, I was the year above and I heard rumours that she was messing about with other guys. DH was in my year and my close friend at the time, so I kept an ear out for anything that would hurt him. In the end I didn't have the heart to tell him, but another friend did and that's why he started having doubts. That and the reasons above.
What do you think based on that info? Why are we both so nervous and how do we stop being so nervous?
Please no nasty comments. I know this has taken a long time, but DH didn't really want to know because as far as he was concerned that was his little girl.