Need advice! I'm I punishing the kids or standing my ground?
I am the SM and we have 3 children. My DH has cusody of his DD and DS. I have raised them for 8 years. BM has had three dui's moved away to another state twice from her kids and now has had another baby to a guys she is not married to. In the 8 years I have been in their life I have never seen BM participate in the kids life anymore that the 4 days a month she has to have them. So now that she has kid to take care of, she all of a sudden wants to start participating in her kids lives.
So here is what I need help with...
In June 2009 DD try-out for a competitive cheer squad and made it. It is very expensive. We sat down with BM and said DD really wants to do this can you help pay for the fees. SHe said she would and then a month later quit paying. Should she be allowed to come watch her daughter practice and perform if she has not finanically help with this??
We have always told BM if you don't help pay for activites you don"t get to participate. Becasue she is benefiting from our $.
I need help. Do most BF Or BM for tht matter pay for everything and let the other still come too the activities???