Making SS do School Work
So SS11 has had a difficult year here with us. He just started living with us full time in May. He's had a lot of problems at school including but not limited to turning in homework, participating in class, finishing tests, etc etc etc.
Parent teacher conferences were last Thurs and we found that he has been sleeping in class the first two hours of school for about a week or two now. I KNOW it's because he's been resisting his bedtime and finding ways to stay up and read half of the night. I've already taken away his lava lamp (he was using the light to read), taken away his alarm clock (it projected a planet onto the ceiling which he also used to read) and have made it a rule to sleep with the door open and moved his bed in front of the door. IDK what else we can do!!!!
We even moved his bedtime earlier and established a reading time 30 minutes to an hour before bed. No dice.
I just checked his online status of homework and he now has like six missing math assignments and just got a 34% on his math test. It's not that he doesn't know how to do this stuff - HE DOES. He just refuses to do it.
How many of you stepmothers make it your responsibility to ride these kids' asses and make them succeed? BM is in another state, busy playing happy homemaker with her new husband and two babies. DH works rotate and a lot of overtime so he doesn't check online grades and basically waits to be contacted by the school.
Is this not my business? Not something I should stress over?! I've already tried going into the school every day and clean his desk, make him come home and do homework all evening and missing assignments but that just made my life hell. I'm at a loss here.