I don't know where to begin. My husband and I dated for a short time and lived together almost immediately. I knew he had three children two of which lived with him. We decided to relocate to Florida to give the children a better life. Well we have been in Florida for the past 3 years and his oldest son is a mess! He is so very smart and he is very handsome but he is a liar! It doesn't matter what he is talking about he just lies right to your face even when you call him on it. He also has destroyed our home. He has cut holes in curtains, the sofa, broke 2 flat screen tvs, told the school that we beat him, told his father that I have threatend to beat and kill him when he leaves for work. I can go on and on and on. I have spoken to some people inthe family already and they said he has ben like that since he was small. The biological mother wants nothing to do woth either boy. She hasn't seen the youngest since he was 1 he is now 6. She doesn't send child support, she doesn't call and she has 5 other children and they are all by different fathers. I was a teacher for a long time and I taught special education. He is extremely defiant. I don't know where else to turn. My husband feels that it's just boy stuff. I know that this child is delaing with alot because his mother hasn't seen him in so long, and she doesn't call. I am trying to be the adult, but I cry everyday and I feel so alone here with noone but him and the kids. I have no one to turn to!! Please help if you have any advise........