I feel like i'm losing my mind just a tad
Anyone else feel like they're drowning sometimes? I have a 4 year old SS, a 12 year old SD and a 1 1/2 year old son of my own creation. My SD is no big deal, she doesn't actually live with us most of the time but she's a great kid. My SS is what's driving my nuts. I love the kid with all of my heart, I really do. But I have no idea what i'm doing. I've been with my fiancé for about a year now and we're getting married in June, we've known each other for 6 years as well. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship thanks to his help, and he had been recently run over by his insane ex wife because "the voices told her to" but that's another topic to discus.
Anyways, my SS was completely spoiled by his mom, no boundaries, ran around everywhere, incredibly rude etc. but she never cared. Through all the work I've done with getting him on a schedule (I'm a stay at home mom) teaching him manners and how to ask for things, reading with him, loving him, being there for him, she still thinks i'm a terrible person even though i'm just loving her son since she's not mentally ok enough to be around him and he wants a mom figure. He calls me by my name, but I just feel like I'm too hard on him. He's only four, and i've never dealt with young kids like this before. I was always the youngest kid around, grew up in the middle of nowhere for most my childhood and even then steered clear from kids, so I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING. My fiance is incredibly supportive, but it's still hard when I don't know if he's lying or bluffing, or if his tummy really does hurt. He lies quite a lot and not having maternal instinct for this kid is driving me absolutely out of my damn mind.
Anyone have any suggestions before I lose my mind completely? I just feel like i'm doing a terrible job.