Help me! I need advice!
My husband have been married for 5 years. I have two kids from my first marriage and he has 2. Everything was great until my husband's ex moved out of state. My SD's visit's have gone from bad to worse (SS is away at college and has not been a problem till now) . The visits hit rock - bottom a year ago. My SD came here, screamed and cursed for days. Stole my underwear, trashed the coat closet hiding, my things under boxes in the back. My husband did nothing. On her next visit - which I objected to because of the last disaster, was horrible. Weeks before, SD threatened her father - you must pick between me and them (me and my kids) My husband solved that problem by taking her out and not letting me or my kids come. Last month, my husband tells me that his daughter is coming back with her mother in their old house. The next thing I know is that she is on a plane coming the next day and going to stay with us for three, weeks - her mother isn't coming. I said No! He lied to me and now she had to finally admit what she did. She called her brother who left me a message trashing my kids and posted on facebook that he never liked me. I am so mad at my husband - his kids have made him feel so guilty. I was always good to them - going to games, concerts, doing hw and projects with them. I took my SD shopping, got to know all her friends and took them out. Now this is how I am being treated. My husband is amazing with my kids. They have a great relationship and he is really a good responsible parent to them. He refuses to parent his kids. This is destroying our marriage. It is ridiculous because they are 18 and 21 and live on the other side of the country. They have done so much damage that my husband and I are constantly fighting. Did I mention that his ex has been trashing me to my husband's family! Sorry so long, but I need to vent and need some advice. Thanks!